Open Doors and Hearts


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I watched her exit the gym after the volleyball practice.

She was surrounded by a group of her teammates. They talked and laughed for  a few minutes and as she waved goodbye and started to walk toward the car, one of the girls stopped her so she could give her a hug. The others followed suit and my girl was lost in a sea of hugs and smiles.

A final wave and then she climbed into the passenger seat of the SUV, tossing her gym bag into the back seat.

During the short drive home, she filled me in on how practice had gone. She had worked hard all summer long, endured three days of tryouts, and made the team the week before. She found the practices exhilarating and her eyes shone with accomplishment and the excitement of a new challenge.

In six days, my daughter will walk through the doors of a high school for the first time.

I know that there will be times of laughter, tears, joys, struggles, losses and triumphs for her in the days ahead.

I find myself repeatedly thanking God for the years He gave me with her when she and her brother were the only students in a very exclusive school called “Brown Academy” :).

I am also thankful for the fact that this summer, the three of us did a Bible study about our identity in Christ.

She has already told me that she has been warned about certain groups to “stay away from.” She was not warned about any person in particular, just the groups by which these kids have been labeled.

This same thing went on when I was in school and it will continue to exist until the end of time.

I have taught my kids to look beyond labels, stereotypes, and cliques and see individuals made in the very image of the God who created them. They will like some of them. They will dislike some of them.

Regardless, they are called to love them—not blindly, but with discernment and resolve— with the very love of Christ and shine His light in that school.

I will be joining them in that endeavor. I have begun to get to know my son’s friends and each  precious name is now on my prayer list. I plan to do  the same with my daughter’s new friends.

I feel like a huge dork around teenagers but my hope and prayer is that as they fill my home in the days and weeks to come, they will find in me someone who truly sees them and seeks to know them…just like my mom did for my friends when I was growing up.

Our hearts…and our doors…are open.

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Saying No To Freedom


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Her grief, confusion, hurt, and anger poured out across the phone lines.

All I could do was listen and sympathize.

I felt helpless in the onslaught of all this pain.

So I did the most powerful thing I could do…I prayed the entire time she was talking.

“Jesus, open her eyes! Let her truly see You!”

She has heard the gospel in all its entirety…twice.

Twice, she has reached out to me in her pain, searching…endlessly searching…seeking peace that never comes.

Because…she will not bend the knee to the Prince of Peace….Jesus…the only One who can give her the peace she so desperately wants to possess.

I’m not ready….” she has whispered in the past, tears streaming down her face.

Ever the Gentleman, Jesus grants her request to pursue life without Him.

So she continues to be imprisoned by her pain…tortured by long nights filled with “what-ifs” and “if-onlys”…forever feeling unfulfilled because those she loves do not have the ability to make her whole…mentally ripping the bandages off wounds that remain unhealed and will not be silent.

The pain screams.

And the Healer waits.

He longs for her to turn to Him. He desires to release her from the enemy’s ruthless and relentless grasp.

He is the only One who can flood her soul with Peace and Joy. His  brilliant and powerful Light would dispel every bit of the deep darkness that now covers her heart.

He can take all her pain and transform it into something beautiful…beauty for ashes is His specialty.

He is the only One who will not be driven away by the depth of her need.

If she opened  His Word…His eternal love letter… He would tell her that she is lovely and precious to Him…that He rejoices over her life with heavenly song…that His plans for her life are grand and glorious (even when it hurts)…that He loved her enough to die for her and He wants to spend eternity showering her with His love.

She doesn’t want any of it.

This is incomprehensible to me and it breaks my heart.

I know this One.

He has set me free. He has healed—and continues to heal— what was/is broken in my damaged heart. Every day is a love affair with Him, no matter how hard or long the road.

He captivates me. He takes my breath away. He pours His love into my heart and opens my eyes to see that His glory and beauty truly does fill the whole earth.

He has made me whole.

I want this for her.

So…I will continue to pray for her as long as there is breath in my body, knowing that I have a Savior who desires that all would come to repentance and find true restoration and redemption.

“I have spread out My hands all day long to a rebellious people, who walk in a way that is not good, after their own thoughts…” (Isaiah 65:2, Amplified)

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Weekend in Vermont


My family is entering a new season.

For the next six months, my husband will be consulting with a company in Vermont, which means that we will see him mainly on the weekends.

This past Friday, we all traveled to our new home-away-from-home to explore.

Vermont is a lovely, charming state.

I absolutely loved the name of this bakery…

Unfortunately, they had already closed for the day.

There was, however, a woman in the window expertly frosting a cake.  She was so intent on her task that she didn’t even notice us.

I wondered if she was one of the crazy Russian girls?  Wouldn’t you love to know the story behind that name?

I definitely intend to go back the next time I’m in town.

Now, this is just wrong:

Red Sox and Yankees fans simply cannot co-exist in the same space. Every New-Englander knows that.

Vermont Country Store is a huge attraction for people all over the country.

Walking through those doors is like taking a step back into time. They carry products that bring back so many memories and nostalgia wrapped itself around me like a warm blanket.

My brother and I had every one of these toys when we were little kids:

Fragrances from yesteryear abound…

Wind Song…L’Air Du Temps…Jean Nate…Anais Anais…Tabu…Wild Musk by Coty (that was a particular favorite of my friends and I were in middle school. It made us feel oh-so-sophisticated).

There was penny candy galore…

We all cracked a grin at one little boy whose eyes widened as big as saucers at the unbelievable good fortune of finding pixie sticks at such a bargain. He literally yelled, “I’m going to get a hundred of these! One! Two! Three! Four!…”  He kept losing count and began to get frustrated, eventually causing his mother to just grab a handful and steer him toward the cashier. 🙂

Now that is an attention-grabbing book title:

Yes please…

After leaving the store, we discovered a year-round Christmas shop across the street:

I liked this “junk food tree”…it spoke to me 🙂

For the rest of that sunny August day, I could not get Christmas carols out of my head!

Above all, the weekend was about family and enjoying being together…

In the weeks to come, we plan to explore all that Vermont has to offer. If you have spent time in Vermont, we would welcome any suggestions!

I can hardly wait to see what God has in store for us during this new season!

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Rainbows


E ven as the sun shone in the sky, big raindrops started to fall as my daughter and I walked to the car on our way to Bible study.

As we drove toward the parsonage, suddenly a brilliant rainbow spread across the sky! Julia immediately pulled our her cell phone and began to take photos.

We take those kinds of things personally in our family. We know that Jesus is always speaking, always revealing Himself to those who are willing to see.

We praised Him for spreading that rainbow across the evening sky for us. 🙂

It is such a delight and a joy to walk through this life with Him, the Author of all beauty.

The rainbow…a sign of God’s promise.

Tears filled my eyes as I drove, praising God for His incredible mercy, grace, and love.

After nearly four years, I am seeing promises fulfilled…promises that I know He gave me as I sought His face and His mind on the matters that were so important to me.

I wrote them all down on a now nearly tattered little spiral notebook that I carried with me everywhere I went. I read them over and over, sometimes through tears. I chose to believe them, even when my circumstances said that things looked hopeless. I spoke them aloud when I was feeling particularly vulnerable to the attacks of the enemy and they strengthened me.

I allowed no one to steal my hope…because I know my God is faithful and He always keeps His promises…on His timetable and in His perfect way.

Now, I have the joy of seeing every one of those promises that He gave me fulfilled…to the very letter.

And yes, my heart overflows with praise as I have seen Him do exceedingly abundantly above all that I could have asked or hoped. It is a time of great joy and I mean it when I say that I truly will never get over what He has done for us.

I am humbled, I am awed, I am unspeakably grateful.

However…my heart overflowed with all these things during the wait too.

Oh, certainly not at first. I was ready for Him to fulfill these promises to me ASAP!

I am so grateful that He didn’t…because He desired to give me the gift of HIMSELF.

He is our “exceedingly great reward.” (Gen. 15:1). In Him, we find “endless treasures.” (Ephesians 3:8)

He. is. everything.

He IS the fulfillment of every single promise.

As you go throughout your day, ask Him to open your eyes to the signs of His Presence.

Consider today a treasure hunt…and rejoice that you have such a wondrous Savior!

Cling with all your strength to His very great and precious promises.

“There is no event so commonplace but that God is present within it, always hidden, always leaving you room to recognize Him or not recognize Him”—Frederick Buechner

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Yes!


For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. —2 Corinthians 1:20

That is an absolutely amazing Scripture!

We have been given hundreds of “great and precious” promises in Jesus’ love letter to us, the Bible ( 2 Peter 1:4).

What is your need today? Find several promises that correspond to your situation and realize that Jesus answers every single one of them with a resounding and eternally joyful “YES!”

“Jesus, I need more of Your joy.”
“YES!” (John 15:11)

“Jesus, I need more of Your peace.”
“YES!” (John 14:27)

“Jesus, will you show me which way I should go?”
“YES!” (John 16:13)

“Jesus, I am filled with fear. Will You fill me with Your courage instead?”
“YES!” (John 14:27)

“Jesus, I feel like I’m not going to make it. My strength is so small. Will You pour Your strength into me?”
“YES!” (Phil. 4:13)

“Jesus, I am going to be honest. This person is driving me nuts! Please pour Your supernatural love into my heart?”
“YES!” (Romans 5:5)

“Jesus, I don’t feel very lovable right now. Please reassure me that Your love for me is powerful and unconditional, even when I mess up.”
“YES!” (Jeremiah 31:3)

“Jesus, my resources look awfully small. Help me to rest in Your promise that You will supply my every need.”
“YES!” (Philippians 4:19)

“Jesus, I am so confused. Things look so dark and scary right now. Yet, You say that Your plans for me are for good, to give me a future and a hope.”
“YES!” (Jeremiah 29:11)

“Jesus, You tell me that I am more than a conqueror and that is true whether I feel like that or not.”
“YES!” (Romans 8:37)

“Jesus, I feel very alone. Thank You for assuring me that You will never leave me or forsake me.”
“YES!”  (Hebrews 13:5)

“Jesus, I thank You that even now, You are preparing a place for me in Heaven.”
“YES!” (John 14:1-2)

Our great God is absolutely faithful. He cannot lie. His Word is eternal and His promises are absolute.

By faith, choose to believe His promises to you today.

Every single one of them will prove true in wondrous ways.

“Faith rests on the pure Word of God alone.”—George Mueller

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Just As You Are


My heart is heavy on this rainy morning.

From the earliest moments of this day, I began getting both emails and phone calls from dear friends and family who were at the end of their ropes, feeling totally overwhelmed and assaulted by life.

It is my honor and privilege to stand in the gap for these dear ones. My heart cries out to the Savior for deliverance for them…the same Savior who boldly and truthfully stated that He had come “to announce release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to send forth as delivered those who are oppressed, downtrodden, bruised, crushed, and broken down by calamity. ” (Luke 4:18, Amplified version). 

 I may feel and be helpless to do anything for them, but I go boldly to the One who is all-powerful and tender-hearted toward every soul that calls on Him in the midst of deep pain.

God’s Word tells me plainly that I am not just talking to air. I am entering the very Throne Room of the entire universe where my great and mighty God sits forever on His majestic throne, able, willing and mighty to save.

He hears our prayers and He records every single one of our tears.

The  Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. –Ps. 34:18

I just heard this song by Travis Cottrell and I wanted to share the beautiful lyrics:

“I come broken… to be mended
I come wounded… to be healed
I come desperate… to be rescued
I come empty… to be filled
I come guilty… to be pardoned by the blood of Christ the Lamb
And I’m welcomed with open arms
Praise God…just as I am.”

If you are hurting today, come as you are to the only One who can set you free.

Come to Him in all your pain and let Him take it.

You are not alone.

You are seen.

You are heard.

You are deeply and eternally loved.

You are not in a hopeless situation.

There has been a resurrection!!!! You have a God that can redeem and restore anything! Jesus has come to make all things new. Nothing is impossible with Him!

“I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, ‘Fear not, I am the One who helps you.'” –Isaiah 41:13

A bruised reed He will not break, and a faintly burning wick He will not quench. –Isaiah 42:3

Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through the fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior…you are precious in My eyes and honored and I love you. –Isaiah 43:1-4

Come to Him just as you are this day and find healing for your soul.

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No Beaten Path


Less than a week after my husband’s job was cut in 2009, he had an interview with a company that was literally within walking distance of our home. There was an opening in his field and the man who would be his boss was a member of our church.

I was elated. What an incredible testimony this would be! God’s provision would be lightning fast and this unemployment business would be a mere speed bump in our lives.

Except…it didn’t happen that way. The company decided not to fill the position.

I was devastated.

I had been so sure. It had seemed like such a perfect answer to prayer.

I went to bed that evening with a heavy heart. In the morning, I continued talking to Jesus about the situation, pouring out my sadness and confusion.

Suddenly, His Spirit spoke to mine so clearly that it was unmistakable: “Do not presume upon Me.”      

That is exactly what I had been doing.

I was stunned into silence.

It truly felt like I was standing on holy ground, His Presence was so thick. In that moment, I felt like the disciples did when they began to grasp who Jesus truly was and asked themselves in wonder and amazement, “Who is this?”

The word presume means: “to take for granted, assume, or suppose; to undertake with unwarrantable boldness; to take liberties.”

God forbid that I treat Him in this way.

I realized anew that He is GOD an I am not.

He is the Potter and I am the clay.

He is the infinite and I am the finite.

He is the Savior and I am the one who needs saving…sometimes (often) from myself.

It was an incredibly humbling moment.

I immediately asked Him to forgive me for my presumption and told Him that I would surrender to His plan and His path wherever it led.

I would no longer try to “write the rest of the story” as my friend Dianne says.

A few days later, I read this in my Streams in the Desert devotional:

“In no way is it enough to set out cheerfully with God on any venture of faith. You must also be willing to take your ideas of what the journey will  be like and tear them into tiny pieces, for nothing on the itinerary will happen as you expect. Your Guide will not keep to any beaten path. He will lead you through ways you would never have dreamed your eyes would see. He knows no fear and He expects you to fear nothing while He is with you.”—Annie Flint Johnson, p. 158

I didn’t know it at the time but Jesus was about to show me that the ‘Jesus’  I thought I knew so well was about to get a major and crucial adjustment.

Over the next two years, Jesus would (lovingly but firmly) expose the true state of my my heart:

*my security was actually tied to the things of this world rather than God Himself

*my focus was mainly on the passing things of this earth rather than on God’s eternal Kingdom

*without realizing it, I was sacrificing depth and lasting joy for fleeting, shallow happiness

*I had plenty of  tidy head knowledge about Jesus but as a result of this extended journey, I was ready to grant Him complete access to my restless, wandering heart and fully encounter Him as He truly is…in His fullness, majesty, and passion.

I am to have no other agenda than His.

Jesus wants—and because He is Lord, rightfully demands—it ALL. No holding back. No hesitation. No double-mindedness.

Just complete and total surrender to a Savior who “is gentle and merciful and kind. But He is also strong to save. And He loves us so much He refuses to pamper us.” –Mark Galli.

As Bible teacher James MacDonald is fond of saying, “God’s love is not a pampering love but a perfecting love.”

Following Jesus is not for the faint of heart. The longer you walk with Him, the more you will realize that He truly does not ever lead you by a predictable path.

Yet, this I promise you…He will surround you with His tender mercies and loving-kindness every step of the way (Ps. 40:11).

Don’t be afraid.

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Weekend Moment: Old Home Days


I had never heard of “Old Home Days” until I moved to New England.

It is a wonderful annual summer celebration of small town America: a time for residents to gather together and revel in the joys of community. People who have moved away try to make the trip home each year to see old friends and family. Neighbors visit under shady trees, local artisans display their wares on long tables covered in tablecloths, and the smell of grilled food wafts through the air.

This year, the band that my kids are in was asked to perform at two Old Home Days on a single Saturday, so we had the joy of attending both.

Patriotism runs high…

There are plenty of animals:

Historic buildings that date back to the 1700s…

Antique cars are proudly on display…

 The people-watching is wonderful…

I so enjoyed walking around and talking to the locals. Since I love jewelry, I was drawn to an elderly lady’s table that was decorated with brightly colored necklaces, bracelets, and bookmarks.

When I complimented her on her offerings, she smiled, leaned forward and said, “It’s all crap, you know. That’s why I have everything priced so low. I just enjoy putting the pretty colors together and getting to meet the folks!”

I immediately purchased a beaded bookmark, unable to contain my smile. You gotta love honesty like that! 🙂

At the end of the day, we  had listened to two fantastic concerts, met a lot of great people and made lovely memories of a day spent together in the summer sunshine. We were also  sunburned, tired, and full of junk food …but I would not change a thing.

I love small towns

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Battle Plan


Having  just gone through a long season of pain and fear, I just wanted to offer a “battle plan” that enables a believer to endure trials from the place of victory and hope that Jesus’ death and resurrection permanently secured for us. This helped me and I pray it does the same for you…

1) The Word of the LORD is right and true; He is faithful in all He does. —(Ps. 33:4).

All means ALL.

All means the good and the bad. Jesus pulled no punches when He said, “In the world, you will have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer ( take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted!). For I have overcome the world. (I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you).”—(John 16:33)

No doubt about it…this life can be rough. However, we must prioritize His Word over our circumstances.

His Word tells us over and over that He is a loving God and everything He says is true. His ways are not our ways, but they are always right. Regardless of what we can see, we can know with absolute certainty that He will prove faithful to us.

2) When we stumble and fall (which we will), it is not the end of the world, as evidenced in Micah 7:7-8: As for me, I watch in hope for the LORD; I wait for God my Savior; my God will hear me. Do not gloat over me, my enemy! Though I  have fallen, I will rise. though I sit in darkness, the LORD will be my Light.”

Notice that Micah did not say that he was hoping and waiting for his circumstances to change.

His focus was on his God, who is the Author of Hope.

Even so, he experienced setbacks, as we all do. The enemy loves it when we stumble and fall. He is a shameless opportunist and works hard to convince us that we will never change, that God is disappointed in us and can never use us.

However, we can join with Micah and refuse to stay down. Jesus knows that we are frail and our weaknesses and failures never catch Him off guard. We can thwart the enemy’s plan by accepting Jesus’ outstretched hand and choosing not only to stand up again, but to move forward out of the darkness that surrounds us and into His Light, bold and unafraid.

Don’t you dare stay down when you fall. You have a Savior who is ever-ready to lift you up. (Ps. 40:1-3)

3) You may say, “I don’t have the strength to get up again. I’m too tired and the battle has raged too long.”

Jesus would disagree. He tells us in His Word that we can do all things through Him because He gives us His strength. (Philippians 4:13). Once again, all means ALL.

Due to the fact that the Holy Spirit lives inside of us, we possess the same power that raised Jesus from the dead. There is nothing that comes our way that we cannot handle in the strength that Jesus offers us.

You are not at the mercy of your circumstances. They are to be firmly under your feet. Claim Philippians 4:13 and refuse to live in fear and weakness.

Your legacy is supernatural strength and victory.

4) Do not live in fear of lack.

Jesus promises to supply all your needs according to His glorious riches (Philippians 4:19). Notice that the text does not say that He will provide “out of” His riches, but “according to.”

If I have $100 and I give you $5.00, I only have $95 left.

Jesus is infinite and has infinite resources that can never be diminished in any way! He knows exactly what you need when you need it and He will always provide your needs.

My husband and I saw this time and time again in the months following his lay-off. We absolutely marveled at God’s abundant provision. As a result, we learned that everything we have truly comes from His hand. Knowing this leads to the peace that does pass all understanding.

(Quick note: much of what we classify as ‘needs’ are actually ‘wants.’ If you need it, He will always provide it. If you don’t have it, it was a ‘want’ and not a true need. Oh, this was a tough lesson for me to learn! After many tears, I finally submitted to the fact that He sees the big picture and I don’t. I came to accept it when He said no because I learned that I could absolutely trust His heart and that He could only give me good things ( Psalm 84:11). And you know what?  He is such a lavish Giver that He does give plenty of ‘wants’ too…as long as we seek Him above all else).

5) Regardless of your circumstances, claim the liberating and awesome truth of this Scripture: “… pray that you may be invigorated and strengthened with all power according to the might of His His glory (to exercise every kind of endurance and patience (perseverance and forbearance) with joy, giving thanks to the Father…” (Colossians 1:11-12).

It is verses like these that vividly illustrate that the true Christian life is a supernatural life. If you pray this Scripture and believe that your desire will be granted, I guarantee you that everyone around you will know that you have been with Jesus.

When going through a trial, never lose sight of the fact that you follow a risen Savior who will always lead you in triumph!

The Lord your God is in the midst of you, a Mighty One, a Savior who saves! He will rejoice over you with joy; He will rest (in silent satisfaction) and in His love He will be silent and make no mention of past sins or even recall them. He will exult over you with singing.—Zephaniah 3:17

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The Light Is Always On


The porch light was burning and I could see the silhouette of my aunt and uncle in the screen door as I pulled into the driveway.

I had been back in my hometown for two days and a visit with my dad’s siblings was already long overdue.

As I climbed the steps to the house, memories filled my mind of years gone by: climbing those same steps, arms loaded with Christmas presents as our noisy, fun-loving family gathered to celebrate another holiday; my aunt’s dining room table always piled high with all kinds of mouth-watering food; my wedding shower in her beautiful sunroom; all the cousins packed in to celebrate my aunt and uncle’s 60th wedding anniversary a few years ago; and many, many more.

If those walls could talk, they would tell the story of a large, imperfect-but-loving family who have made it through the best and worst of times together with our faith and sense of humor intact. These rooms have been filled with so much laughter, even during times of sadness, such as the first time we gathered there for dinner after my dad died in 2002.

The grief was palpable when everyone arrived that evening.  My dad’s larger-than-life personality left a gaping hole and the silence of his laughter and deep voice seemed to scream louder than anything else. Tears brimmed and hearts ached at  the sense of enormous loss. He had always been the one to say, “We’ve got to enjoy this. There are no guarantees. This might be the last time we all have the chance to be together.”

We never dreamed that he would be the first to go.

Yet…shortly after dinner was served,  one of us  said something funny. Someone laughed. Then another and another…until soon we all were laughing…laughter mixed with tears to be sure, but the laughter was a welcome relief nonetheless.

It’s my family’s way.

I was enveloped in hugs the second I walked through the front door and as soon as I sat down in my aunt’s beautifully appointed living room, I could feel myself relax, as if all was right with the world. I felt so safe and protected.

This house is a haven to me. I left my hometown 17 years ago and have lived in 11 different homes. My mom sold my childhood home back in 2004. So, when I have the chance to come back to this familiar place, it is truly comforting and special to me.

For almost two hours, we talked, laughed,  and reminisced.

These dear ones make me feel as if I can do anything and have always been incredible cheerleaders in my life.

I study their faces, so aware of the changes of time…and so grateful that they are still such a big part of my life. I treasure the minutes and all  too soon, it’s time to go.

There are more hugs and promises to get together again soon and I walk to my car, tears filling my eyes.

Thank You, Lord, for the precious gift of TIME with them. Their bodies have slowed down but their spirits are still as strong as ever. I can’t imagine my life without them.

I start the car and back out of the driveway, giving a final beep of the horn and a wave.

And they do what they have done since I was born…they stand in the doorway and wave back until my car is out of sight.

It’s one of my favorite sights in the world.

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